A lot of single women ask me my opinion about finding a mate. There are a lot of single women, whether divorced, separated, or never been married, that would like to have a great guy in their life. The first thing that I tell them is to know what you want. I made a list as a matter of fact when I was single. I remember a godly man with intelligence and a sense of humor topped the list. I must say that he exceeded my expectations. Sure, no man is perfect, but neither are we. If you’re divorced, don’t blame yourself. Learn and grow from the experience.
We can sometimes overlook a good man because we are so wrapped up in the physical. No, I’m not saying that you should date a troll, but give a guy a chance if he’s a little chubby or a little shorter than you. Especially if you have a lot in common. I’ve met many men that are sexy, but they are very flawed in other areas. Sexy doesn’t pay the bills. Sexy won’t matter if he’s cheating on you or taking his frustrations out on your face. I tell women as long as you find him attractive, it doesn’t matter what anyone thinks.
It’s wonderful to have a man that is also your friend. You can talk for hours when you’re together, no matter how deep the conversation. You should have similar religious views, values, and the same attitude about family. If you want to have kids, you don’t want to be with someone that doesn’t want them. Also, if your man wants you to be a stay-at-home mother, but you want to have a career, those are vast differences. If you’re having major issues before you get married, they’re only going to get worse. Also, you want a man to be supportive. He shouldn’t bad-mouth you behind your back or embarrass you in public. You should be respectful of him as well. Marriage is a team effort.
Lastly, when you finally meet that special man, make the marriage work. Remember that you take vows before God. When problems arise, communication is very important. Don’t be selfish and beware of the many temptations that are out there. (That’s another discussion).